The results you obtained were consistant with your use of the meter. If you wanted her key side cheek to look line that you used the right meter and the right technique. The spot meter is a great tool, but you need to interpret the readings and adjust the stop accordingly. An incident meter is a guide to normal exposure and is not the best way to obtain a look that deviates from that. However you stopped to soon. You could have metered other areas of the scene to see how they would look, or you could have trusted your eye.
Foot candles have nothing to do with your situation unless you have a foot candle meter. Ignore that idea.
When you are trying to emulate a shot that was done with a 10k and you have a 1k consider that the 10k may have been much farther away, set to flood or spot, may have gone through difussion - possibly many layers and may have been dimmed or scrimed.
You are on the right track to learn. Light, shoot and study the results - repeat. Consider using a still camera to start, cheaper and quicker.