Jeff ..
i'm agree with you when you said that you must use your eyes, but i'm not sure about trust in the monitor. That's right that video rec and film rec are completly diferent images, but is because video rec was design for broadcast and film rec to be pos produced , because of the dinamic range of this option..
Then you don't need to change the ISO in your meter but use the gamma box or gamma correction plugins to get the middle tone areas ....
I know is a big discusion., but i think that could give us more POV of this and other tecnologies
all the best
Rodrigo