I think the reason so many Hollywood-films don't engage with the cinephile is not because they are manilpulative, but because they are so obviously manipulative with a one-dimensionality that lacks depth, patience, or breathing room for the audience. They are also way too literal, in my opinion.
Hollywood films, and much of tv, seem so concerned that we "won't get it" that they hand deliver answers, ultimately depriving us of any sense of magic and mystery.
The most engaging, for me, are usually the films that aren't concerned with answers at all, but more about creating an abstract sense of personal truth. This usually means that the film is willing to venture into areas that challenge us to look at something from a diifferent perspective, and aren't exactly sure how we feel about it.
The trend in the commercial arts these days seems to be about providing a mass appeal for dollars, which ultimately waters a film down to having a general and predictable nature with absolutely zero poetry.